Women who are abused by their husbands or boyfriends usually do not share this information with anyone for many reasons. They are convinced that it will not happen again; they feel ashamed; they’re afraid that their friends or families will give them advice that they are not ready to hear or act upon; they’re afraid of their abusers; or they feel responsible. Feeling responsible is the most deceptive reason because it implies that there is something different or better that the abuse victim can do to prevent the abuse and that is just NOT TRUE. A victim of abuse is not responsible. If you are a victim it is not your fault. Reporting the abuse is the first step toward establishing a documented record that the abuse has occurred. Obtaining a restraining order is another link in the chain. Fifty percent of restraining orders are violated, but simple math indicates that fifty percent of restraining orders are effective in keeping the abuser away. What is there to lose by filing for a restraining order? Not doing it means years of violent abuse with no one else the wiser, but doing so lets the authorities know that it’s going on. And let’s face it, if you’ve lived with an abuser until today that means that you know how to live another day. If your restraining order is violated, use your hard-earned skills and live another day! With the abuse on record.
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